Rev. Daniel Annan has cautioned young women and families against the dangers of toxic relationships and abusive partners, urging vigilance in matters of love and marriage.
Speaking on the Prime Morning Show, he described toxic relationships as “destiny shatterers” and advised parents to carefully guide their children in choosing life partners.
Using what he called the “mirror of life,” Rev. Annan stressed that poor relationship choices can destroy even the brightest futures.
“It’s so pathetic when you invest in a daughter, give her the best of education and hope she will become a light to the family, only for someone to damage her life for selfish gains,” he lamented.
He recounted the story of a young woman whose promising life was derailed by a controlling, selfish, and abusive partner. According to him, while the girl remained physically alive, “her soul was dead” because of the trauma she endured.
Rev. Annan urged people to look beyond appearances in marriage decisions. “It is not the person you see that you are going to stay with, but their character,” he warned.
He outlined five red flags often ignored in relationships:
- A partner unwilling to invest emotionally, financially, or spiritually.
- Controlling individuals who dominate and damage others to maintain power.
- Men raised in environments where women are dishonoured, repeat the cycle.
- Partners who project past hurts onto new relationships.
- Narcissistic individuals who think only of themselves, even in intimacy.
“A narcissistic partner will not just stab you and leave,” he cautioned. “They will stab you and watch you bleed to death. Because it’s them and their world, not yours.”
He further warned that abusers often appear gentle in public but reveal destructive tendencies in private.
Secrecy, aggression, refusal to forgive, hiding past details, or failing to introduce loved ones to family and friends, he noted, are red flags that should never be overlooked.
Rev. Annan also stressed the importance of observing a partner’s faith and environment in shaping character.
“If he has never taken you to church or introduced you to family, be cautious,” he advised.
He concluded with a strong call for action: “Don’t sit idle when you see the signs. For your own safety, be vigilant. Some people have already judged themselves by their actions. Protect your life and your destiny.”