Traditional priest Nana Kwaku Bonsam has shared his views on marriage, intimacy, and personal care, encouraging couples to combine spiritual beliefs with practical efforts to build and sustain healthy relationships.
Speaking on Tuesday, May 5, he drew a clear line between genuine traditional healing and practices he believes are harmful, stressing that true healing should restore and strengthen, not cause damage.
He explained that traditional healing involves the use of “herbs, leaves, and roots” to help restore balance and wellbeing, describing it as a natural and restorative practice. However, he firmly rejected any forms of practice he considers harmful, saying he does not support them.
“Traditional healing should restore and strengthen, not destroy,” he said.
Nana Kwaku Bonsam also touched on relationships, noting that physical appearance and self-care play an important but often underestimated role in sustaining romantic bonds. He observed that some women turn to spiritual solutions when they feel neglected by their partners, but he often advises them to first pay attention to how they present themselves.
In his view, simple changes such as grooming, dressing well, and self-presentation can make a difference in relationships.
“It’s not the spiritual charm; it’s the dressing, because he changed his hair, did the nails, wearing a sexy outfit,” he explained.
He added that when partners take care of their appearance, it can naturally strengthen attraction and help maintain emotional connection.
At the same time, he cautioned that physical appearance alone is not enough for a lasting marriage. According to him, character and inner values matter more in the long run.
“In marriage, you don’t look at the physical. Look at the heart,” he said, adding that “beauty fades with time while love and a good heart endure.”
He summed up his philosophy with the phrase “use heart to marriage,” stressing that emotional connection is key to long-term stability.
On intimacy, he described it as an essential part of marriage, warning that dissatisfaction in that area can easily lead to conflict between partners.
Nana Kwaku Bonsam concluded that strong marriages require balance—emotional connection, physical self-care, and spiritual understanding—emphasising that lasting relationships are built on effort, character, and intimacy.